The following words from ~
The Imitation of Christ by Rev. Thomas A Kempis.
The Voice of Christ
What are you saying, My child? Think of My suffering and that of the saints, and cease complaining.
For the genuinely patient man does not consider from whom the suffering comes, whether from a superior, an equal, or an inferior. Whether from a good and holy person or a perverse and unworthy one; but no matter how great adversity befalls him, no matter how often it comes or from whom it comes, he accepts it gratefully from the hand of God, and counts it a significant gain. For with God nothing that is suffered for His sake, no matter how small, can pass without reward. Be prepared for the fight, then, if you wish to gain the victory. Without struggle, you can not obtain the crown of patience, and if you refuse to suffer, you are rejecting the crown. But if you desire to be crowned, fight manfully and bear up patiently. Without labor, there is no rest, and without fighting, no victory.
Patience is also one of the twelve fruits of the Holy Ghost (Spirit) namely Charity, Joy, Peace, Patience, Benignity, Goodness, Long-Suffering, Mildness, Faith, Modesty, Continency and Chastity.
Pray often: Please O Holy Ghost in Your Goodness please flood my loved ones with Your supernatural gifts and fruits that we will as a family be together for all eternity. Amen